5 Powerful Secrets to Make A Man Want to Commit to Only You


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  • Melanie

    Reply Reply April 26, 2016

    Adam, this is the best video I’ve ever seen about commitment and relationships. I now know exactly what I need to do. You’re incredible.

    • Pauline Smitj

      Reply Reply May 13, 2016

      So heartbroken right now. Lost the love of my life a month ago. This is helping me to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

    • Melinda Spencer

      Reply Reply September 22, 2017

      Enjoyed this video.
      Thank you so much
      I am ready to start using the
      Power system now

  • Jackie

    Reply Reply April 26, 2016

    This touched my soul. I know I deserve so much and I’m a very caring person. I’m ready to use the POWER system 🙂

  • Char

    Reply Reply April 26, 2016

    Thanks for taking the time to create this program! It is right on time and will make navigating the dating scene less frustrating. I love the focus on self worth. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!

  • Katrijn

    Reply Reply April 26, 2016

    Dear Adam,

    Thank you very much for the empowerment. I really appreciate your knowledge and giving this information for free. Thank you again and I wish you a lot of success with your new program.

  • Stephanie

    Reply Reply April 26, 2016

    Great video Adam. Living your best life IS all about a shift in awareness and thought, which you articulate well. I like your POWER acronym. The tools that you outline are a great foundation for each aspect of anyone life. I’m looking forward to your next video in the series. I’m excited for where you journey leads you.

  • giggle

    Reply Reply April 26, 2016

    Thanks for the great advice

  • Leonor

    Reply Reply April 26, 2016

    Adam nice touch with the outdoor scenery and the suit. Loved the comment…men commit if being with you is more positive than being single. I was a bride but now living a separation (husband disconnected and he has chosen to focus elsewhere). Excited about the next phase of my life and one day being with a man that cherishes me and my two little girls!!

  • Christine

    Reply Reply April 26, 2016

    Great video <3

  • Tasmin

    Reply Reply April 26, 2016

    Hi Adam, this video resonates so much with me. I cant believe how much of a dope ive been and relinquished my power to guys who never earned anything from me and yet I gave so much to them! Doh! I guess it boiles down to selfworth. I need a kick up the ass, which by watching this video I think I just received it!
    Thank you Adam ????

    • JackyLu

      Reply Reply September 11, 2016

      You are not by yourself. He used his left to kick me with. Time to work on My Worth first.
      Thank you.

  • Andrea

    Reply Reply April 26, 2016

    Great video

  • Monia

    Reply Reply April 26, 2016

    Adam, I love the way you explain things

  • Gina

    Reply Reply April 26, 2016

    I am a big fan for a long time! Even though I am so appreciative for having a great man in my life for some time now , I still follow your videos for any extra advise to keep myself in check. You always make me laugh with your costumes. Keep up the excellent work !!

  • Jen

    Reply Reply April 27, 2016

    Right on!

  • debbie

    Reply Reply April 27, 2016

    Great video. For me, the qualities I bring to a relationship are honesty, integrity and open mindedness. You have to be willing to love… Sometimes its not so easy to do… But always worth the experience. Just never know what the future holds.????

  • Cheryl Dumlao

    Reply Reply April 27, 2016

    After my divorce, I felt like I was thrown at the wolves with no manual on dating. Had I not known Adam’s amazing videos, I would’ve made the same stupid mistakes over and over and over again. I enjoy dating now than I ever had in my 20s. It is challenging and painful, but there is more growth and opportunity because Adam taught me how to cut my losses and choose my battles. His texts in his “Love Texting” book work like a charm. I highly recommend this to every woman out there whether you are single and still in the dating pool or in a committed relationship. You will not regret it 🙂 More power to you, Adam!

  • Vera

    Reply Reply April 27, 2016

    Always interesting information. So much of it is common sense, but needs to be presented in that “logical”manner, which points out the obvious we are missing while we are “emotional”. Many thanks!

  • Laura

    Reply Reply April 27, 2016

    This is your best video yet!

  • Sue

    Reply Reply April 27, 2016

    Such great advice… I’ve only begun to experience my power with men over the past year. You are absolutely correct… the more I value myself and stick to what it is I’m looking for (which is a committed, loving relationship), I find the more I have men chasing me! 🙂

  • flory

    Reply Reply April 27, 2016

    Thank you for giving us pattern of searching good partner ….So help me God.

  • LS

    Reply Reply April 27, 2016

    Thank you Adam for such wonderful advice. This is exactly what I was looking for! So excited for more information!

  • Sophie Mulally

    Reply Reply April 28, 2016

    Great video and Advice. I am 21 and I always end up with the wrong guys and notice by watching your videos i learnt alot.

  • NF

    Reply Reply April 28, 2016

    I love this and need it and want it. All this stuff I never knew!

  • P

    Reply Reply April 28, 2016

    Thanks so much for the free video! <3 Always a struggle to balance the emotion and logic as I am a very analytical person… i tend to shut down or anticipate what the outcome of me expressing my feelings will be…. I wrote all of this down and hope to try to implement each step a bit better in my dating life.

  • Nords Will

    Reply Reply April 28, 2016

    Amazing and timely advise. You are awesome and that is why you are so successful! Thanks a million for always helping us women to navigate the jungle of the dating world.

  • Pat

    Reply Reply April 28, 2016

    I would like to learn more about POWER

  • Nancy

    Reply Reply April 28, 2016


    You walk your talk and guide women and men with clear approaches to achieving the results we all want. I enjoyed your Casual To Committed POWER Blueprint will keep it as a reminder –
    P – Protect Your Heart from the wrong guy(s).
    O – Open your heart to the right guy(s).
    W – Realize your self-worth
    E – Make him Earn your worth
    R – Stay Rational about your Love Life
    This is sheer POWER.– POWER IS KNOWLEDGE.

    All my best, Nancy

  • Agnes

    Reply Reply April 29, 2016

    This is very insightful and empowering. Empowering not to the point of manipulating men but to hold the power within to reach your goal.
    Thank you for this helpful video and thank you, Adam for sharing your expertise on this area. Look forward for more.

  • Kathleen

    Reply Reply April 29, 2016

    Thanks Adam you are awesome

  • Pam Adkisson

    Reply Reply April 30, 2016

    Great content!! Thank you!

  • Jenn

    Reply Reply April 30, 2016

    Great video. I am going on a date tonight. I am going to use POWER principles. I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve

  • Stephanie

    Reply Reply May 1, 2016

    Thank you for sharing. This is so needed and I hope it will work for me. I am sick of being alone. Hopefully this will work and make me happy again.

  • Amy

    Reply Reply May 1, 2016


    A big thing for me is the way you break down men’s behavior so we can better understand what’s going on. Our culture has changed so much and I’ve really heard any other male voice step up and explain what’s going on. Looking forward to meeting him. I know one day I will and I’ll be ready!

  • Micbele

    Reply Reply May 2, 2016

    Watching this video again, after week 2, reminding me that it’s ok to be enotional and feel, but rational about my worth was the shot in the arm. I went out on date 3, invested and too into the ‘what if’. It really helped me to realize that I will give too much too soon, get hurt, resent, have black heart…wait and repeat. No more. I’m aware now….looking forward to how this works.
    Glad I found this video series.

  • Zinnal patel

    Reply Reply May 2, 2016

    Lovely video Really talks about giving that power to women…Really a big thanx dude…u rock

  • Christine

    Reply Reply May 3, 2016

    Great use of an acronym Adam. A little too wordy prior to getting to the crux of the plan.Thank you for your encouragement!

  • Kate

    Reply Reply May 4, 2016

    Great video!

  • Ngoc

    Reply Reply May 4, 2016

    Thank you so much for your very useful tips, that makes me feel so better now and more confident in my next relationship because I have more knowledge on men and raltionship 🙂
    I have to sign up your coaching when I’m in new relationship and want my next relationship to be successful.

  • Ame

    Reply Reply May 5, 2016

    Thanks for this! I’m hoping to start right away!

  • laura guyon

    Reply Reply May 6, 2016

    Hi Adam,

    I really enjoy this video,your advices are very precious.
    Where can we have more informations about the “make him earn your worth” part, which seems to me the most difficult to apply?
    (sorry for my english i’m french)

    Keep going 🙂

  • Andrea

    Reply Reply May 6, 2016

    Great information can’t believe what I have learned so far!!

  • Liz

    Reply Reply May 7, 2016

    Great video…i needed to hear that!!!

  • Jennifer

    Reply Reply May 7, 2016

    Free blueprint download doesn’t work!

  • Bijou Monga

    Reply Reply May 9, 2016

    Great video

  • A

    Reply Reply May 10, 2016


  • Dawn

    Reply Reply May 10, 2016

    Adam, you hit the nail on the head in so many ways. Everything you said was spot on with the guys I was dating and how I was being treated, guts being emotionally unavailable and how I end up getting hurt. I will be following the 5 steps.

  • Melissa

    Reply Reply May 10, 2016

    Thanks for this Adam! Love your style and your advice! What do I bring to a relationship? Lots of fun, passion, and positive energy!! 🙂

  • Kim

    Reply Reply May 13, 2016

    I need to ask a question! If he’s dating someone long-distance for two years and it one time I had a brain, but things got sidetracked we started not to get along, but I’m trying to make it work again the second time, I need advice!

  • Kim

    Reply Reply May 13, 2016

    Had a ring! Voice text is horrible!

  • Bridgett

    Reply Reply May 15, 2016

    Thank you!.. im so excited to start this.
    My worth, i do know is amazing! I bring everything to the table. Im very independent. I take care of everything for my kids and i. I live nicely, clean, have a great career and need nothing. But I’d like to find someone that makes me laugh, appreciates all that i do, talks to me about any problems, and hugs me. I believe in being friends.
    Thank you

  • Brandace

    Reply Reply May 16, 2016

    This has really helped me with personal development. ???? The perspectives I don’t always remember, are so appreciated.

  • Alyssa

    Reply Reply May 18, 2016

    Awesome video!

  • marie

    Reply Reply May 19, 2016

    I’m 67 years old and I learned lots from your video Adam. I am woman and powerful. Thanks Adam

  • Reni

    Reply Reply May 20, 2016

    This video has hit home on a lot of levels. I will be waiting for the next videos to come out soon.

    Thanks, Adam

  • Heidi

    Reply Reply May 20, 2016

    This video helps me see I am truly failing to protect my heart. Married, to a man who cheats/separated, and he doesn’t want to be with me/pregnant with our third child/and desperately trying to hold on, which has been pushing him further. For now, I’m just trying to heal, I do want my little family together – but not at the cost of my worth and happiness. I’ll keep watching to see what I can learn.

  • kendra playfoot

    Reply Reply May 21, 2016

    cant wait to start trying this out!!

  • Beatriz Torres

    Reply Reply May 22, 2016

    I loved this … I will start doing this from now on

  • Carey Campbell

    Reply Reply May 22, 2016

    This has been helpful! The man I am deeply in love with has told me that he isn’t ready. Now, he is going through a divorce and lives 4 hours away, so it has been difficult to spend time together. We were friends for 11 years before we took the step to attempt a relationship. In fact, he has even said he loves me and I am his best friend. That’s what makes his sudden “I’m not ready” declaration that much more confusing!

  • W

    Reply Reply May 24, 2016

    You are right on target and I look forward to learning more thank you

  • W

    Reply Reply May 24, 2016

    You are right on target can’t wait to learn more. looking forward to it thanks

  • Yep

    Reply Reply May 27, 2016

    Let’s give it a go

  • Wharton

    Reply Reply May 28, 2016

    OMG! I needed this information in my life now I just have to apply it. I’m so ready to settle down. I been friends with a guy for 5 years that I think is confused, so I’m not sure if he’s the one for me.

  • Delilah

    Reply Reply May 28, 2016

    i’m a survivor, compassionate, artsy, animal lover, I am a great listener

  • Carole

    Reply Reply May 29, 2016

    POWER in a relationship needs to be mutual. I realize it’s an acronym for behavior. I think there needs to be more focus on self-worth … what if you realize this guy’s self worth is lacking? I spoke to him about it & he thought I was fanning his ego… yet he agree that he was “not confidant” in himself. I let him go, glad I did too because he went back to his ex-wife !
    So… I get to go back to being Open to the right guys, well they don’t come with a sign & a good many who’ve gone through divorce don’t really know what they want anymore! I don’t have a Black Heart…I’m being Rational, logical & emotional, honest & authentic.

  • Cassie

    Reply Reply June 1, 2016


  • Margie

    Reply Reply June 1, 2016

    Wonderful Blue Print of Dating.

  • Juliana

    Reply Reply June 1, 2016


  • Ioana Azamfirei

    Reply Reply June 7, 2016

    Amazing video! Thank you for this! It all makes so much sense.
    I think “Worth” and “Rational” are the two things I need to focus on first, and then the “Earn it”. I’m a very sociable-approachable person. I have an outgoing personality, a good sense of humor and I’ve always had and easy time making friends. However, the moment feelings ‘show up’ for a new guy I met and found attractive it’s as if I become ‘stupid’ all of a sudden… it’s like my brain switches off. All I see in my head are rainbows and butterflies and endless sunshine and … I have almost lost count of how many times I’ve fallen for the wrong guy. As a guy-friend put it ‘it’s like you’re a magnet for doushbags’.
    Long story short, YES PLEASE keep it coming! 🙂

  • Gloria Ross

    Reply Reply June 7, 2016

    Thanks for the video. I see now I need to start at rational.

  • Lynda Parker

    Reply Reply June 8, 2016

    Thank you Adam. I’ve just started a brand new relationship with a man who suggested we started dating (and this is after we’ve known each other as friends for almost a decade and have wanted to date) and we’re almost a month along. So far, it’s slow, but I’ve been advised by my brother that this is normal for it to be slow at first – because he wants to be with me for the long run.
    However, last week, he whispered ‘us’ to me after a date and since then, he’s been very quiet. I’ve been told when a man initiates that he wants to take it further, he either runs like a bull at a gate, or he takes his time. I think I’m dating a shy guy (I’ve been watching your videos and spotted my man immediately as the shy guy). But seeing we have both lived alone for years, we’re also very much set in our ways… and so we’ve both found we’re very stubborn too – which I find hilarious. 😀

    From your video, I’ve been overthinking things with my new man. So, I’ve done the right things – so far – and taken an interest in his life, family and friends. Now, it’s his turn to see how things go. I’ve already invited him to my class reunion as my date… let’s see how it goes.

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    Reply Reply June 10, 2016


  • Lydia

    Reply Reply June 10, 2016

    Adam have to admit your “tips” work for the young & beautiful not for the middle aged, ugly women.

    • Jean Bush

      Reply Reply July 24, 2016

      There are no ugly women, just those that don’t know what their beauty is.


  • ashlee

    Reply Reply June 19, 2016

    your video gave me somethings to really thing about, i had been Leary about watching it, im glad i did. cant wait to see the next video. thanks so much for the burning question what is my worth in a relationship?

  • Joanne

    Reply Reply June 20, 2016

    Thanks Adam. You’re confirming what I’ve been feeling and yet my emotions get in the way and I need to step back and see my worth and what I need. Will work on the latest guy earning my affection. I have a lot to offer in a relationship and just haven’t found a guy yet that treats me the way I deserve to be treated. They take my kindness for granted so I am learning a lot from your videos to help me progress.

  • lily

    Reply Reply June 26, 2016

    i just got out of my second relationship… i feel like im in the black heart begining stages.. there are lots of guys who are interested but i feel like im done opening myself up. i need to know how to tell if a guy is the right guy to open up to, i also need to learn or relearn how to be happy alone. i know no guy wants a miserable girl. PLEASE help me

  • Suzanne

    Reply Reply June 28, 2016

    Great video….but what if you are not in your 30s? Dating in late 40s and early 50s is a challenge because of so much life experience that comes with it…kids, aging parents, ex wives/husbands, careers, etc. Are you able to help us too?

    • Billie

      Reply Reply February 1, 2017

      Yes Adam thanks for video. But what about being older.? And what if you have been in a relationship for 11 years and he chooses the bottle over you.? And he has got his self in alot of trouble now. At least two years worth.He says he loves me BUT that is what I hear. Do I stay or do I go. I love him dearly and hate to start over again after 11 years. I listened to what you told your friend. Should I just come out and ask him. Where are we headed ?? Because I will wait. I just want forever. Please answer this one question for me. Thanks. Desperate Depressed and confused. HELP.!!!!

  • Dianne

    Reply Reply June 28, 2016

    Such passion, great share! Thanks

  • K

    Reply Reply June 28, 2016

    Thanks for the insight.I feel my kindness is taken for granted.I feel communication is so key but very challenging. Compromise has to be made. It’give and take. I don’the feel like I see the rewards of that. I ‘m accommodating, positive and give space. I guess hearing about the “worth ” stage will be beneficial.
    Definitely need to find the right person.I ‘m frustrated with”timing ” always being off!

  • Lisa

    Reply Reply July 2, 2016

    Great videos!

  • Mz.AAAAA

    Reply Reply July 3, 2016

    Love it! Awesomeness! Pure AWESOMENESS

  • Kim

    Reply Reply July 4, 2016

    Makes sense! Can’t wait to see more! Thanks!

  • Stacy

    Reply Reply July 6, 2016

    Right on target Adam!! Thank you for sharing and I look forward to your guidance.

  • Jodi Birmingham

    Reply Reply July 9, 2016

    THANK YOU ADAM! Some of what you say IS hard to hear but is necessary and very helpful! God bless you!!

  • Liz

    Reply Reply July 11, 2016

    Thank you for this video it really helps motivate me to keep being strong, trying to open my heart up to the right guys and get the bigger picture of what I can improve on!!

  • Stephanie

    Reply Reply July 11, 2016

    Thank you for sharing your knowledge. This video is very eye-opening for me. Looking forward to future videos.

  • marian

    Reply Reply July 16, 2016

    Thank you for the video. Its very eye-opening and am going to follow this… Thanks alot

  • Paulette

    Reply Reply July 27, 2016

    Very interested in finding out how this will
    Impact my current relationship.

  • Beatrix Coetsee

    Reply Reply August 4, 2016

    my worth, I am smart, educated, I can cook very well, I am not rude or unbecoming, I have my own house, I am fit and healthy, I am kind and patient, I look good and like a classic wear, I am social and very involved in the community, public speaking and run a bed & breakfast, I have met a lot of guys but have a fairly high standard so have not given my heart to anyone since my husband died 5 years ago. Not that I dont know how to have fun, I do and I get on with all my family members, even the difficult ones…truly, its because I understand honour, I love reading, movies and have a general positive and grateful disposition,
    But I am still single ??

  • Dorrie

    Reply Reply August 7, 2016

    Thank you so much for your insight Adam.. This is so helpful! I always try to live by the Power rules in dating. I’m very upfront in what I want in a relationship and supportive to my partner. Starting to see the light and on the right track…
    Thanks again

  • Nat

    Reply Reply August 19, 2016

    Thank you, insightful and thoughtful… Needed the reminder and focus.


  • Mel

    Reply Reply August 27, 2016

    Adam .. How do u get a man that told u that u r the best thing that has ever happened to him and that he fell in love with u and wants a life with u to get back to that after he has gotten sick and doesn’t remember any of the things he has said to u ? I have fell in love with him and I have been on a roller coaster from May 1st to July 19 th things started to get better between us but he doesn’t open up the way he use too nor show the same interest .. I feel like I’m at square one .. Is there a way I can talk to u one in one ?? I love him and I truly want to turn this around the way it was before May 1st please I need your help .. Thank u

  • Kristy

    Reply Reply August 30, 2016

    Looking forward to more.. Have felt so stuck since my fiancé cheated on me before our wedding. Too many causal relationships and feel like there are no good men left. Hopefully this will make me see things differently

  • Monica

    Reply Reply September 6, 2016

    Adam… You give me so much hope…I really had given up on relationships…but I have learnt so much from you .. Thank you..

  • Tania

    Reply Reply September 11, 2016

    Thank you for this video Adam. It has really opened up my perspective when dating men now. Looking forward to seeing how implementing your strategies will bring results into my personal life from now on.

  • Cindy

    Reply Reply September 12, 2016

    This is awesome! I see now that i need to evaluate MY self worth and be happy with myself first because no one else is going to do it for me.

  • Peta

    Reply Reply September 14, 2016

    Uplifting and positive approach.

  • Tiffany

    Reply Reply September 15, 2016

    Thanks! Good video.

  • Penny

    Reply Reply September 16, 2016

    I met a guy I love but unfortunately he is not willing to commit. however i don’t want to lose him.This video really gives me direction as to what i should do. It is really helpful…

  • Terri

    Reply Reply September 20, 2016

    Hi, Adam! Where were you 40 yrs ago?!?! I know, not born… I am thrilled to hear what you are saying, and am anxious to learn more. My issues are several, the first one being a high energy 60 yr old in a dating pool with men who either want the young ‘trophey’ or the men who are tired of being alone and so desperate that they are talking matching holiday sweaters on the first date. It’s exhausting, but I don’t have an ‘organic’ way to meet men aside from dating sites. Have you had much experience working with older singles? Will this stuff translate to this population? I’m lonely, but certainly not desperate! So afraid that I will have to ‘settle'( which I won’t) or be alone forever…

  • Diana

    Reply Reply October 1, 2016

    I needed to hear these things many years ago. Now as a senior I will have the relationship I choose.
    Been single 33 years not done a lot of dating. Still wanted that beautiful relationship.
    My thing to work on is make him earn it.

  • Anna

    Reply Reply October 12, 2016

    Authencity sums it up. You and your message are so authentic

  • Mau

    Reply Reply October 14, 2016

    Great video

  • Brigitte Bruneau

    Reply Reply October 19, 2016

    Awesome I needed this LOL. Learned a lot and now can’t wait for the other videos. Thank you

  • Blackheart

    Reply Reply October 19, 2016

    Already have blackheart. .now what

  • Dale Lefevre

    Reply Reply October 20, 2016

    I bring maturity, reliability, & integrity to my relationships.

  • J

    Reply Reply October 20, 2016

    Wow. Truly enlightening. I recently cut off someone, today, that was #1 on the Power list! I totally didn’t protect my heart. I knew in my heart from the beginning that he just wanted to just sleep with multiple women and didn’t want anything serious. My mistake was not asking his interests or what he was looking for sooner, and let my feelings grow for him. I put rationality to the side! I knew he had a troubled past with the law, and also that he wouldn’t even be right for me! But, I only saw him for 2 months and had my heart on my sleeve! I treated him with respect, showed him my fun side, showed him my wifey side and we had incredible sex. I hoped he would find love in me. I told him how I felt and it was a blessing to be able to see that I was unimportant to him. He wanted to continue seeing me and gave me so many mixed signals it was detrimental to my mental health trying to figure it all out! I have self worth and I know I don’t deserve that! I am actually happy because I do not have that negativity that I allowed to have. #protect your heart. I love it. Thank you.

  • Jeanette

    Reply Reply October 30, 2016

    The videos on this page from my email won’t open?

  • Jeanette

    Reply Reply October 30, 2016

    I have watched you though a lot and really like what you have to say. I have a lot to learn. Please let me know why I can’t open? If you can. In on a tablet but that shouldn’t matter.

  • Lu

    Reply Reply November 3, 2016

    Great overview – but cannot download. I keep getting a blank page 🙁

  • Holly

    Reply Reply November 12, 2016

    Thank you for your wonderful insight into what men want in commitment. I recently became heartbroken when the man I loved, who was my best friend and always said that I was his best friend, cheated on me. He always claimed to not want a relationship, therefore he doesn’t see he did anything wrong. But, for the past 2 years he maintained a monogamous relationship with me. However, when he showed up at his buddy’s house, where I was visiting, with another woman, he told his friend, “thanks for the heads up.” So, this tells me he does know that he’s done something wrong. I don’t know if there is ever a time when you should consider working things out with someone who has cheated. I do know that we had an amazing friendship and an amazing sex life with the best of both worlds. I can recognize what I would need to do differently, if we tried again, but my question is this: Do you believe it could ever work out in the long term, if he was to ask for another chance? I haven’t spoken to him since everything fell apart, because I didn’t want to seem as needy as I certainly felt at the time, but I truly love this man and want a life with him, but not at the expense of my own self-confidence. Any response would be greatly appreciated, as I agonize over this daily.

    Best wishes,
    Holly 😉

    • Michele

      Reply Reply December 14, 2016

      I feel for you. I’ve been in your shoes. Adam is spot on in his advice. Protect your heart. Your friend said he didn’t want to be in a relationship. I’ve learned that you have to believe what they say. I could have written your comments. I was in a ‘relationship’ where the guy sent so many mixed messages, how much he loved me, but didn’t want a relationship. In the mean time, he treated me like we were in one so he could have sex. Then cheated. I don’t fault him – he told me clearly he didn’t want a relationship. So he got what he wanted, but I fell hard, and I think he cheated as a way to really let me know. Taught me a lot about exactly what Adam says here. Protect your heart, make them earn your worth, be rational… or move on. You deserve better.

  • Patricia

    Reply Reply November 12, 2016

    Hello Adam. Just read all the comments from other ladies. I, too, am a senior; never married, retired. A man found me thru CL. It has been a month. I no it is dangerous to look at horoscope, but this has helped me immensely. Last night he would not even kiss me. We text & text. We are on my house. I did not get in the bed w/him
    He awoke & texted w/a Y. I opened my heart & told him I was hurt. Well, when he left, he gave the sweetest most wonderful kiss. He also held me as close as he could get. O, btw, he is mama’s boy & over 50. Has no $, works hard, & has no DL 4 60 days. Now, he realizes he needs me, but, I am going away for two weeks. Absence does make the heart grow fonder. I plan to send him a couple of special things:. Socks & $. I tell him that I want a relationship based on honesty, open-mindedness & willingness. There r also thiqngs he needs & wants. He grew his beard out 4 a week just 4 me. That right there is investment. Also, he is not the only man in my life & u better believe he nos it. Competition! I keep my heart protected. He doesn’t get everything until he earns it. He does lie about things & this is an issue. I just tell him that is not acceptable. He says, sry
    Thanks 4 great video.

  • Angie

    Reply Reply November 16, 2016

    I’m at a loss for words. You seem to have highlighted every issue I struggle with in relationships. And in the end always alone, I think I have not found the balance in “Power” it’s either too much or too little of one or the other. Thank you for sharing. Here’s to me finding the complete “Power” package.

  • Karina

    Reply Reply November 17, 2016

    Very interesting information You shared.. Looking forward to listen to more of tour valueable advices. Thank you

  • Wendy

    Reply Reply November 18, 2016

    Definitely struggle with the “r” in POWER. I’m excited to start my journey using this strategy. Thanks so much for sharing Adam.

  • sherry

    Reply Reply November 19, 2016

    I am 62 and starting over in the dating world. Your videos have been helping me gain new confidence. Thanks, Adam.

  • Grace

    Reply Reply November 26, 2016

    There is hope!!

  • Beth

    Reply Reply November 29, 2016

    Thank you, Thank you!! It’s time to take back the power, ladies.

  • Sarah

    Reply Reply December 2, 2016

    Thank you for these free videos. I will definitely use this blue print and pass it on to some friends to help them too. I know exactly what I bring to a relationship. As easy as “onto the next one” is, when you use too much emotion, it’s hard to say goodbye.

  • Ita

    Reply Reply December 6, 2016

    Great video… made me realise I’m putting too much into this guy that is not valuing my worth!!! Going to stop text him until he text me!! If I don’t hear from him on my birthday this weekend!!

  • Marsha

    Reply Reply December 8, 2016

    Thank you so much…I hate playing games…I wear my heart on sleeve most of time and have told him before what i want and I ask him what he wants so he replies “same as you” but, he travels for work, can’t (or won’t) find a job closer (he works from a company in CA but I live separately from him in MA) and have been dating for 11 years. He has explained he wants to be with me but the situation is that he has to travel. He does say that being with me is the best part of his time and loves me and wants to be with me but I only see him maybe four times a month (sometimes less and that’s not enough!). He says he IS committed to me, and isn’t seeing anyone else but I can’t prove it honestly. My friends think I should move on (several of them think he’s got a “girl in every port”) and some are like, just wait it out, he’s seeing you more and more though, give it more time…I honestly think 11 years of doing this is long enough, I want the ring already wtf????

    • Unicorn

      Reply Reply December 28, 2016

      Marsha, You need to ditch that man and move on, he sounds just like your friends are saying,… Sorry!

      11 Years!!!???!!!! Are you kidding me?
      Im in shock! Unless he’s working in the middle of the ocean on a drilling platform, there is NO excuse for pulling you thru that kind of life!

      I hope you´ll find the courage!

      Best wishes


  • Moriannae

    Reply Reply December 15, 2016

    Hi, I’m looking forward to other vids you’re preparing 🙂 this one surely brings the fundamental basics into the light, it does make sence 🙂 so now I just have to focus on those more 🙂

  • Roxanne Marie

    Reply Reply January 3, 2017

    I’m a 53 year old woman who is now divorced after 27 years of marriage with four sons. Boooyyy are things different from 30 years ago. Your “pep” talks have helped me with my self esteem, self worth and online dating in general. Thank you! Can’t wait for the next videos!!

  • Jacquie Spencer

    Reply Reply January 3, 2017

    Adam – I appreciate and very much enjoy your refreshing and passionate approach to having a great relationship. However, as much as I try, I’m left confused, because the guy I’ve been dating for FOUR years, does not follow your description of wanting a committed OR non-committed relationship. He started out by saying he was not interested in commitment of any type. He “wanted to go where he wanted, when he wanted, etc., etc. I continued to see him (and he me) anyway and trying to accept what he very honestly and upfront said to me. All this time he has stuck with his original desires – – until the last year. He now seems to be around much more, seems dedicated to making me totally happy, calls me a lot more and tells me most of what he is doing, where he is going, etc. I am questioning why this change (to myself) as he has not said anything regarding his change in behavior, feelings, etc. Therein lies my dilemma, I don’t know whether to point blank ask him, or let it go for a while and see what happens?? I sure don’t want to “rock the boat”. In the mean time I am following your POWER advise to the best of my ability. You are the best of all the GURUs on relationships I have read and listened to including Rori and Christian.

  • Stephanie Sprague

    Reply Reply January 7, 2017

    I appreciate the sound advice in your video, and look forward to more. 😊

  • Tanzi

    Reply Reply January 12, 2017

    Tysm Adam ! This is much needed

  • Jeanette

    Reply Reply January 13, 2017

    Dear Adam, Thank You for being so fourth coming with these videos, I totally screwed up from day 1 with ex that lasted 12 n half years with no commitment…real eye opener and now I know what I need to do. thank you for the free videos. please continue sending them.

  • patricia

    Reply Reply January 15, 2017

    Very interesting video — looking forward to the next ones
    My question is how or what does ‘make him earn your worth’ look like?
    I am late 40’s and most of the men have been married and aren’t looking for a relationship — want to enjoy their freedom and have fun only
    Thank you for you comments

  • Glenda

    Reply Reply January 17, 2017

    Thank you. With all the advice out there, this seems to put it all together better than all the bits and pieces. My biggest problem is the R! When you’ve been alone so long and you want love so bad, you find someone that seems to have everything you want, it’s HARD to not want instant gratification when all the hormones are flooding the brain of a girl who wears her heart on her sleeve! I need some exact tools to “over ride” the auto pilot switch the hormones seem to have!!!

  • Lori

    Reply Reply January 22, 2017

    I really enjoyed this video. Made me realize that I need to do a lot of work on myself. Thank you for this information.

  • pen

    Reply Reply January 22, 2017

    Thank you….seems like all men want is to get laid. Thanks for reminding me of my worth

  • Marci

    Reply Reply January 24, 2017

    So excited to on this journey of self discovery!!!

  • Hope

    Reply Reply February 1, 2017

    Finally a concrete blue print , makes it easier to wade thru all the bad experiences and see light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks Adam, at least I am set in the right direction.

  • Jennie

    Reply Reply February 1, 2017

    Thank you…this is exciting. So looking forward to the information.

  • Rachael

    Reply Reply February 10, 2017

    Looking forward to learning more for sure.

    Basically, I have a lot to offer and I know this. But I usually end up in one of two groups, either in the I love you dearly you are like my best friend, but I just want to be friends category, OR the hookup to maybe a friends with benefits situation. The very few guys who have stated they are into me at a deeper level something has prevented them from following through with it.

    1. Dude who is a good friend, and my future biz partner, is very much wanting to just be friends because he prefers women to only be 25 to 38 or no more than 10 years older than him, and I just turned 51 even though i look like I am in my mid 30s.

    2. Dude had his ex decide to try again and this being the only woman he had ever felt in love with and wanted to marry before she dumped him and broke his heart, he is trying again. We are still friends, and I do hope things work out for him with her since love like that is hard to find.

    3. Dude feels like we are too far apart and is scared of feeling the feelings he has for me. Of course I am moving 800 miles closer to him in June or July.

    Then I have the guys who just want to have fun and are not planning anything serious, Just dating and sex and maybe a fwb type thing.

    All the rest of the guys are just wanting me as a platonic friend, a buddy, or best friend. I have many long time friends with guys that have stood the test of time.

  • Rachael

    Reply Reply February 10, 2017

    Weird not sure why it is showing that old pic of me from 3 1/2 years ago I have lost about 80 lbs since that pic uggh

  • Emma Gem

    Reply Reply February 13, 2017

    Hi Adam,
    This is an epiphany, stumbling onto you on you tube. I have been questioning my WORTH, what am I bringing into my relationship with my very good, very generous and attentive, very challenging bf (said challenging because whatever he does for me, I tried to equal it)
    I tried showing him that I am worthy of being a good gf to him. But then, in my alone time I question myself, what is my worth and what am I bringing into my relationship that makes my bf feels positive being with me than being alone. I know that there are factors that affects us women why we acted with our emotions a lot of times. So with that being said, staying RATIONAL and balancing that with our female emotions plays a lot and helps us a lot making the right actions or reactions.
    This is heavy and deep for me because I am ready and open to love again fully and I know and I hope in my loving heart and my rational mind that this man loves me the same, coz I know he is my RIGHT guy.

  • Dixi

    Reply Reply February 21, 2017

    Amazing video… thanx for the tips that actually make real sense now… Keep the good work 🙂

  • Piera

    Reply Reply February 22, 2017

    Hi Adam

    Thank you, I watched your video and Im going to try to find my worth. After my divorce I really didnt know how to find anyone, when you have been with someone for 22 years starting over is difficult. I am waiting for your other videos, this is the first time Ive stepped out and tried dating after 6 years and its crazy out here i just cant believe what I see and hear. I was ready to step away from dating but now I want to hear the rest of your videos see if I can figure out what men are thinking and how to get them to listen

  • Piera

    Reply Reply February 22, 2017

    so I went on a date, this guy was pestering me for days and kept saying we would be great together. I finally went on a date with him we did have a great time he put out his hand to hold mine and asked for a kiss, which I did and we sat close to each other. He wasnt feeling well and I told him to go home and rest after a couple hours he finally said ok. He let me know later he got home ok and said he wished we could cuddle. I said I would make him soup if he was up to it but his kids were coming over and definitely next time. That night (next day now) he texted me thank you and cant wait until next date when he is feeling better. I texted him next morning to see how he was doing and nothing, all day nothing. Nothing now for over a week, I dont want to give up I did like him and felt a connection but I dont want to chase him. I did send him a message a couple days ago telling him silence speaks volumes and wished him luck, I know I should not have but I needed a response yes it was dumb but still nothing. a couple days later I said its a beautiful day enjoy the sunshine and have faith. Left it at that and again nothing. I am bothered by it and dont know what happened but it weighs on my mind. Anyone can give me any input it would help but just dont understand

  • Regina

    Reply Reply March 1, 2017

    very good insight. I look forward to the next one but I think I know which ones to avoid…

  • Caroline Young

    Reply Reply March 2, 2017

    Thank you so much for your video l was beginning to think that maybe it was me and that l was feeling more than the person l have been talking with and l realize l am,worth the time an effort if he is willing to work twords a relationship.
    He had a f health issue that.put some distance between us from where we were and l know he is worth the time l just need to express myself in a way that doesn’t push him away and yet not take me for granted.
    This is the first time in my life l have had to sit back and not allow my old records destroy my relationship. He has shown me that l matter , just hasn’t put the effort into acknowledging that my feelings are important too..
    I don’t want to shoot myself in the foot because l am impatient and yet l don’t want to put the time in if he doesn’t acknowledge me.

  • ginny

    Reply Reply March 13, 2017

    My worth is that I’m honest, loyal, faithful, trustworthy, hard working, generous, giving, extremely loving, forgiving and hopeful

  • Shelley

    Reply Reply March 18, 2017

    I found a great man on a dating site. It’s long distance at the moment but still early days . Your advice is amazing and I’m implementing this into the relationship as I want an amazing relationship this time. I’m looking forward to the other videos keep up the good work.
    Thanks again

  • Marie

    Reply Reply March 22, 2017

    Thanks for the video. It was great! I will Definitely be focusing on the “W” in the word power! My worth!

  • Karina

    Reply Reply March 25, 2017

    You are so wise!! l love this videi in particular. You really are giving the key. Thank you for being so giving to help woman to find happiness and to be a guide. Love the way you explaine it that really gets to the heart.
    You are amazing couch!!

  • cindy

    Reply Reply March 28, 2017

    Love your videos very down to earth & you present very well! I enjoyed the power segment I can relate to all of this as I am sure alot of people can.
    Tk you 🙂

  • Linda

    Reply Reply March 31, 2017

    Thank you Adam!

  • Susan

    Reply Reply March 31, 2017

    This is such a great video and you put it all out there and I love that! Can not wait for next video!

  • lin

    Reply Reply April 11, 2017

    Are you using techniques to manipulate someone into a relationship they ordinarily would not commit to? Love comes when two people LEARN to care about each other as they gradually bond through shared experiences and shared lives. Divorce is usually the consequence of forced commitment.

  • Alma

    Reply Reply April 23, 2017

    First I would like to say thank you. I really trust you it’s a lots BS videos & misleading information I appreciate your honesty & by you showing your face means a lot… Answer … My {W} I’m fun. Honest, authentic faithful , intelligent , interesting with life projects well define, happy living a peaceful quality life spiritual very social high morals I know my self pretty well self-love with a fully understanding of in responsable of my complete & unique self… I’m not like anyone else no matter how temping could be. I will. Not fall for it. Respectful beautiful, unique live& move in the circle of love.

  • Sandra

    Reply Reply July 2, 2017

    Thank you, nicely spoken. However, why would I purchase something from someone who isn’t married?

  • Susanne

    Reply Reply July 15, 2017

    Adam, I keep watching all of your videos on youtube. I learnt a lot, so thank you so much. You know what, the tone of your performance what gives me extra superpower. I cant imagine the energy in your voice. So thank you all your effort you put into it

  • Stephanie

    Reply Reply July 16, 2017

    Thank you for the information Adam. I recently just started talking to my highscool crush after 17 years and turns out he had a crush on me too. He lives 2 states away so I know it’s going to be different than what I’m used to but I know it’s worth it. I look forward to seeing the rest of your videos and always appreciate the knowledge you provide.

  • Joni

    Reply Reply August 14, 2017

    Hi Adam …. this is great advice not only for romantic relationships, but for any relationship you have in life — friendships as well as professional. If only I had thought about this sooner, I would have made different choices. But the past is past and I’m looking toward the future. You ask what I would work on first — Knowing my self worth. I bring a lot to the table. I’m financially stable, have a quirky sense of humor, very intelligent and pretty laid back about most topics. As I move through the relationships in my life, not just the romantic ones, I’ll be reminding myself what I bring to that relationship. Thank you!

  • Tatiana

    Reply Reply August 23, 2017

    I love the explanation of the POWER!!! especially, when it comes to a rational side of a relationship. I used to be guided by feelings and emotions. Now it’s time to add up “rationalism” into love life.
    Thank you, Adam!

  • Sandra Tobias

    Reply Reply September 16, 2017

    I needed this today. I stay disciplined with my emotions but struggle to understand why I do so. Thank you for identifying the need for a balance between P and O. This entire system is astounding to me, the value it has. Again, thank you.

    Also, I am at the start of my career. As I build it, I will reference your material more since I work in social settings and am human. I may consider other options you offer in the future.

  • lindsay jorgenson

    Reply Reply October 9, 2017

    Thank you

  • Billie

    Reply Reply October 26, 2017

    Thank you, love your videos.

  • Jen

    Reply Reply November 5, 2017

    A zing! Cant wait to learn more!

  • Tricia

    Reply Reply November 10, 2017

    Great video with great advice!

  • erin

    Reply Reply November 13, 2017

    great video, can’t wait to hear more!

  • Laura

    Reply Reply November 28, 2017

    I loved this video. It has so much information to use in the real world of dating. I cant wait for the next one. Thanks Adam

  • catie boyer

    Reply Reply December 1, 2017

    Hi, Adam I have a question about if I should or should not make this move with a guy for my sake?
    This guy I am having fun with who I have feelings for that are kind of taking over now…
    He says he is not ready for a relationship that I am attractive yes but…
    He also has not a dangerous but still there sex addiction…
    He is a very nice guy still, good friend of mine but I wish that we could take things to the new level as a couple, but like I said he doesn’t want a relationship, that he is tired of getting close to people and hurting them…
    My problem is I see past his issue and problem of being a sex addict, yes he needs to go for counseling and such, yet he goes to church and there is a program where they talk about addictions…
    So, I don’t know the next step/right step?
    Should I leave the situation and find someone else and protect my heart from him because I don’t want no black heart syndrome…?

  • Sharon

    Reply Reply December 4, 2017

    I am only listening I really have given up but you make a lot of sense

  • SuzieMo

    Reply Reply December 9, 2017

    Thank you Adam-
    While I knew it all along, you helped me get on to the “next “. My self worth and what I bring to relationship is so much more when I am being offered in my current relationship! Thank you for the reminder!

  • SuzieMo

    Reply Reply December 9, 2017

    I got to say, I really like the randomly selected emoji’s! That’s a nice touch thank you for all that you do. I attended your webinar this week, and I would’ve signed up for your coaching except that I’m not sure that I’m quite ready or in the right place at the right time to sign up for the webinar.

  • Yolandi Benade

    Reply Reply December 10, 2017

    Very insightful. Wish I knew it before😉

  • Blessed

    Reply Reply December 17, 2017

    Thank you for sharing your knowledge of relationships. I look for to listening to more.

  • Tara

    Reply Reply December 19, 2017

    This video is great. I can’t wait to get the program.

  • Jacaranda

    Reply Reply December 30, 2017

    Well said Adam. My bar had lowered to a ridiculous level probably equal to my self esteem. Your Vegas example made it very clear why I don’t get respect. Thx for giving me a clue how to get it.

    I am a very good catch; upbeat, creative,affectionate, love touching (too much), outgoing, healthy ( I’m pretty old, so not a given), playful and perceptive. I can cook real well, well traveled etc. I look darn good too.

    Let’s see if working your POWER method gets me back in love for 2018.

  • Helen

    Reply Reply January 16, 2018

    Hi, Adam–interested in learning more about balancing the rational and emotional!

  • Gloria Lee

    Reply Reply January 17, 2018

    I know i am worth it ..i dont know if he knows that

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